Dr. Patricia Bay - Therapy in a Nutshell
By Dr. Patricia Bay
Dr. Patricia Bay, "Dr. Patty," has created a radio show based on her 35+ years of experience as a Marriage, Family Therapist and on her book entitled THERAPY IN A NUTSHELL. You may listen to the show on her podcast to help with challenges we all face in this world. She will help you with your own personal growth, your relationships, families and friends. Join Dr. Patty and help her heal the world one hour at a time.
Dr. Patricia Bay - Therapy in a NutshellNov 21, 2024
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I AM NOT BEGGING ANYONE TO LOVE ME
How do you cope when someone you love stops loving you? Many begin to feel desperate, lost, confused and angry. Often the desperation and the grief create a willingness to beg that person to love you again. There are healthy ways to handle this difficult issue.
May 24, 202548:52
BILATERAL STIMULATION
Bilateral and biolateral stimulation has been utilized for psychological healing with therapies such as EMDR, an awesome trauma therapy. This episode discusses the use of bilateral stimulation on your own to reduce anxiety, calm your brain to help you fall asleep, enhance memory, effective studying and much more. Tamara Baker, LMFT joins Dr. Patty to discuss this unique technique.
Dr. Patty welcomes your comments about how her new CD entitled BIOLATERAL HEALING helps you. Go to her website to purchase the MP3 download for $10
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Jan 29, 202535:36
HOLIDAY FAMILY DRAMA
Almost every family experiences drama, especially around the holidays. Tamara Baker, LMFT joins Dr. Patty to discuss this issue and offer coping ideas. Family is important and not always easy. Upgrading your coping skills might bring a better you to the table this year. Who knows who you might model this for in your family.
Nov 21, 202437:21
SOBER CURIOUS
Have you wondered what letting go of your addiction would look like? Drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex, food, shopping, gambling…what is your poison and what would work for you to possibly quit? This episode helps you explore being SOBER CURIOUS.
Jun 18, 202401:01:07
ONE YEAR OF SOBRIETY
Barbara, who spoke in my podcast “NEED TO STOP DRINKING?” and told of her journey into sobriety, is back in this podcast discussing ONE YEAR OF SOBRIETY. Her vulnerable, honest and heartfelt sharing is beautiful and inspiring.
Apr 17, 202444:20
Need to stop drinking?
Dr. Patty and Barbara talk candidly about Barbara’s journey into sobriety. She discusses Dr Patty challenging her, and Barbara diving into the challenge, of a 90-in-90… learn what that is and if you are brave enough to step into it.
Jan 16, 202459:57
HOLDING THE DOG POOP
Life is full of adversity. Sometimes a hot, steamy mess gets plopped into our hands. How do YOU deal with the stresses? Do you feel victimized, blame or act out with frustration and anger? This episode will help you learn how to recognize it and further your emotional development.
May 30, 202318:09
TARGETED BULLYING
Bullying is not just a problem in our schools, there are adults that purposely target others with attempts to ruin them. Trying to emotionally devastate, diminish a reputation, or financially harm a person or business can be TARGETED BULLYING. Dr. Patty joins Linda Bott, owner of KCNR Radio, on her show to discuss this difficult issue.
Feb 05, 202345:31
SENIOR PLACEMENT ISSUES
Caregiving a loved one can been extremely difficult and exhausting. Thinking of needing to “place” them or get help can be complicated and frustrating. Marianne Siefert of Marianne’s Senior Placement Services joins me and gives a wealth of information on this issue.
Dec 07, 202242:51
GETTING “CURRENT” in your relationship.
Hanging onto old issues, hurts and problems can ruin the intimacy and safety of your relationship. Learn how to work them out to get “current” and then how to guard that precious space.
Sep 21, 202216:36
NICKNAMES- Trauma or Endearing?
Nicknames can have an endearing impact or a traumatic effect on a person. Many people have childhood trauma surrounding nicknames they were given. It is also a way we let people know that we feel close to them. How have nicknames affected you?
Aug 15, 202216:32
ARFID - Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder
More than just picky eating, Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, is a serious and challenging eating disorder. Learn the symptoms and dangers of ARFID. Special guest, Allison, age 15, takes us through her struggles with this extremely difficult disorder.
Jun 26, 202249:18
PROCRASTINATION
Learn why you put things off and how to overcome this difficult… and annoying… behavior.
Jun 18, 202240:27
LEAD WITH YOUR SOFT SIDE
Many people are too efficient with their words. They bark out orders or assume the person they are speaking to knows that “please or thank you” is implied. When you learn to lead with your soft side, you can connect much better with the people you care about. You do not become some kind of door mat. People just like you… not just love you, but like you.
Jun 11, 202228:14
PTSD and MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS
Doctors, nurses, medics, EMT’s, techs of all types and ER personnel constantly handle life and death situations. These heroes often struggle with PTSD and stuff it under in order to keep on keeping on. This episode will address these issues and not only encourage them to get help, but let everyone know some of the emotional hazards they face. Dennis Blocker II, author of CLEAR, joins Dr. Patty to reach out to these heroes.
May 29, 202248:50
EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS
Everyone has their emotional weak spots that can be triggered. If you have trauma in your history or currently struggle with PTSD or you are just trying to live a peaceful life, understanding your triggers is empowering. Learning how to regulate your response is even more advanced. Let’s do this.
May 21, 202248:55
PLASTIC SURGERY - Motivations & Expectations
If you have considered plastic surgery, for reconstruction, cosmetic or medical reasons, this episode will give you a lot of great information. Board Certified Plastic Surgeon, Maximilian “Max” Malotky, MD, joins Dr. Patty to discuss why people have such surgeries, what to expect and keeping reasonable expectations.
May 14, 202248:58
Does your BEHAVIOR MATCH your WORDS?
When your behavior or someone else's behavior does not match their words, it creates problems. Intention does not equal action and that equals trouble. Learn how to talk about this issue AND more importantly, fix YOUR OWN behavior to match your words.
May 07, 202248:57
Meaningful APOLOGIES
A well done, sincere apology is incredibly valuable. It furthers trust and intimacy in relationships as well as making you feel better about yourself. Leave how to make this a sincere part of your life.
May 01, 202248:54
LIFESTYLE CHANGES - Stop Something & Start Something
Making changes in your life to improve your physical and mental health starts with small changes. Learn how to STOP something and START something to get your changes going.
Apr 23, 202248:51
CYBERBULLYING
CYBERBULLYING is a bigger problem than most people realize. It is an appalling, horrific issue for many, especially for teens. Understanding what to look for can help save your loved ones sanity and sometimes their life.
Apr 09, 202248:21
ANGER
How do you do anger? Learning to look below your anger can help you become a more emotionally developed, communicative person. All of your relationships will benefit from this personal growth.
Mar 26, 202248:54
TERMINAL ILLNESS
If you, or someone you care about, is facing a terminal illness, this episode will openly address issues many are afraid to talk about. Richard Malotky, MD joins Dr. Patty to discuss this sensitive topic.
Mar 19, 202248:56
SARCASM
Do you, or someone you know, often use sarcasm? Many use sarcasm to keep others and themselves in check. To deepen your relationships and grow emotionally, learn how and why you do sarcasm.
Mar 13, 202249:23
ESCAPE ADDICTIONS
Do you ever wonder if you are addicted to gourmet coffee or social media? Does that nightly drink make you wonder if you are pushing any limits? Addictions where we regularly try to run from our feelings or "treat ourselves" or try to shut out the world for a bit, might be a "call to consciousness" about what is going on inside. This is not about alcoholics or drug addiction, it is about the everyday escapism that most people mobilize to cope with life. What is your addiction? Is it harming you?
Mar 05, 202249:23
SEXUAL DISSATISFACTION
Good sex... Bad sex... No Sex... Whatever you struggle with in your sexual relationship, it is probably fixable. You have to be able to talk about it and get working on solutions.
Feb 19, 202248:47
SUICIDAL CHILDREN
There are signs and symptoms that suicidal children often show. It is not unheard of in children as young as 5-years-old, and possibly younger. Listening to this episode could help save a life.
Feb 13, 202248:55
BURNOUT
BURNOUT can happen with your job, a relationship, caregiving or just about anything you must do on a regular basis. It is important to recognize the signs and symptoms and begin to create change before you sink too low.
Feb 06, 202248:26
AFib
Special guest, Richard Malotky, MD, talks about AFib (atrial fibrillation). Learn the most common symptoms and the importance of treating AFib. So many people avoid acknowledging that they are experiencing something because the signs can be vague. This show could save the life of you or someone you love.
Jan 29, 202248:55
ACID REFLUX
If you or a loved one suffers with acid reflux, also known as heartburn, or stomach ulcers, this episode will teach you how to deal with it. Richard Malotky, MD gives expert medical advice along with Dr. Patty, to help you deal with these physical and emotional issues surrounding this very common stress reaction.
Jan 15, 202249:05
AGING GRACEFULLY
Many are fearful of growing old. How do we let go of fear and age gracefully so we do not ruin out current peace of mind? Explore what is happening for you and the possibility of moving into a healthier state of mind.
Jan 09, 202248:55
SOCIAL ANXIETY
Do you often say, "I do not want to go to that party," or "I'll go but I'm leaving early," or " I'm dreading my family gathering because I worry they will judge me?" When social settings make you nervous or uncomfortable, you may struggle with SOCIAL ANXIETY. This podcast will help you understand what it is and give you coping skills and options for treatment.
Dec 19, 202148:54
COMMITMENT
How do you know if the commitment in your relationship is real? Are you hoping to create a lifetime commitment? Learn how to evaluate this important dynamic and how to improve commitment in your life.
Dec 11, 202148:55
DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES
From mildly messed up to severely unhealthy, families fall into a spectrum of dysfunction. Is there truly a completely healthy family? Let's talk about family dysfunction and then healthy family traits. Learn some coping mechanisms to deal with your family.
Nov 27, 202148:21
Surviving a mentally ill parent
Special guest, Megan, joins Dr. Patty to discuss the ups and downs of being raised by a severely, mentality ill parent. Vulnerable and brave, Megan tells her story and offers insight and coping skills for others currently, or even in the past, going through the difficulties of dealing with a mentally ill parent.
Nov 20, 202148:56
COVID PREPARATION to survive at home
COVID is here. Many physicians will tell you it is not "if" but "when" you will get it. Being prepared to care for yourself, and possibly your loved ones, is of paramount importance. You cannot wait until symptoms arise. You must be ready BEFORE you, or someone you love, gets sick. Listen to this episode ready to take notes to set yourself up in a positive manner. Hopeful you will never need it, but being prepared could save someone you love... Including yourself.
Nov 14, 202148:57
LISTENING
Learn how to be a good listener and how this can deepen the safety and intimacy of your relationships. There are specific skills involved in not only listening well, but actually hearing and understanding others. Listening is the foundation of deep understanding.
Oct 23, 202148:54
SEPARATION ANXIETY
Separation anxiety can be experienced by adults as well as children. The uneasy, or fearful feeling of being away from your loved ones can be painful. Learn what separation anxiety is, how to deal with it and how not to unknowingly create it in your children.
Oct 17, 202148:55
SHY PEOPLE
Sometimes being an introvert, as opposed to an outgoing extrovert, can be a challenge. Curtis Moore, a very brave introvert, talks with Dr. Patty about navigating this world as a shy person. Together they offer some coping skills that might help you if you are a shy person, or to understand shy people in your life.
Oct 09, 202148:56
GETTING INTO THERAPY
Choosing a therapist can be a challenging issue. Navigating the choices, financial issues, concerns and what to expect are very "doable." Dr. Patty helps break it down and make the process easier to manage.
Oct 02, 202148:56
COVID SHAME and FEAR
Many people try to use shame and fear to motivate others into doing what they believe is right for the CoVid pandemic. Some people who come down with CoVid feel horrible shame and guilt as if they have done something wrong and it's their fault. Media people are using guilt, shame and blame in an attempt to get others to do what they think is right. None of this is working to help our country deal with this highly contagious virus. Richard Malotky, M.D. and Mandy, a mother who was recently a survivor of Covid shaming, join me, Dr. Patty, to discuss this issue.
Sep 25, 202148:56
VACCINES - Making an informed decision.
There is so much fear and anxiety surrounding CoVid and the vaccines. Special guest, Richard Malotky, MD, gives a lot of great information to help you understand the risks so you can either make an informed decision or write down questions for your doctor.
Aug 28, 202148:54
The Things People Fear
Anxiety, phobias, rejection, abandonment, death and dying, etc.... The fears that many people have often ruin their lives. Work on understanding your fears to begin to get control of them. Peace is possible!!
Aug 14, 202148:55
PAIN YOU CANNOT SEE
The struggle of invisible illness and of pain others cannot see, can be excruciating. Whether it is physical or emotional pain, the frustration of life changes and challenges can be exhausting. Olympian, Simone Biles, withdrew from the 2021 Tokyo Olympics because of something others could not see. We dedicate this episode of THERAPY IN A NUTSHELL to this brave athlete and to all who struggle with PAIN YOU CANNOT SEE. Tara Bedford did a music video that speaks to unseen pain:. youtu.be/d1OTBIif5B8
Jul 31, 202146:47
VICTIMS in relationships
Do you feel like a victim somewhere in your life? Your relationship? Your job? Does someone in your life "play the victim" and it drives you nuts? Understand the nuances of this seemingly difficult dynamic.
Jul 24, 202148:52
MEN AND DEPRESSION
It is often difficult for men to admit they might be depressed and need help. Denial, avoidance, minimizing and fear of looking weak and vulnerable can play a role in not getting help. Richard Malotky, M.D. joins me in this important episode.
Jul 17, 202148:55
RETIREMENT - The Emotional Transition
Whether you are 30+, or nearing retirement age, or are already retired and not thrilled with your life, this episode will get you reorganizing. Preparing well for retirement is important, but it is also possible to reorganize if you are struggling emotionally with this challenging transition in life.
Jul 10, 202148:41
BE THE CHANGE
How well do you handle change? Look at the areas in your life you have tried to change but could not pull it off. What keeps you from succeeding? How well we handle change we cannot control and change we try to accomplish on purpose?
Jul 04, 202148:56
What is your PURPOSE in life?
Whether you are a young person starting out or revaluating your life, how do you know what your purpose is? Are you happy? Do you love what you "do?"
Jun 19, 202148:56
DEFENSE MECHANISMS
When an event or upset makes us feel badly, worried, concerned, angry or fearful (or many other possible emotions), our defense mechanisms can come into play. Learn what those might be and how to shift yourself into healthier, more developed behavior.
Jun 12, 202148:43