The Jackie and Stacey Show
By Jackie Scott and Stacey Cheatham Wilson
S7/E20: How does PERMISSION impact how we show up in community
Monthly Topic: PERMISSION
Today we discuss 4 ways to give you permission to engage in your community in a healthy way. Our impacts are persistent and strong. We sometimes aren’t even aware of the ripple effect our words and behaviors have on our communities. Bandura’s Social Learning Theory shows how our behavioral modeling reinforces our community identity, de-escalates tension, and builds trust. We have permission to 1. Practice micro-gratitude; 2 & 3. Ask curious questions & prompts; and 4. Name your values and model them.
S7/E19: How does PERMISSION impact how we show up in close relationships?
Monthly Topic: PERMISSION
This episode is for the ladies. Or, anyone who knows a lady! You see, women tend to withhold permission for themselves in five general areas: 1) to ask for what we need/want; 2) to hold boundaries in our close relationships; 3) change; 4) asking for help/space; and 5) to NOT identify as the caretaker in the relationship. Whew, these were some tough practices to discuss today, and to give ourselves permission to consider to NOT continue!
S7/E18: How does PERMISSION impact how we show up in faith?
Monthly Topic: PERMISSION
We have Free Will. This means we have permission to choose: a life with God, or a life without God. Even if you choose a life with God, you will wrestle with all the rest of your choices … to allow God to be the leader of your life, or not. The Psalms especially are a detailed reflection of crying out to God - in victory, battle, fear, pain, love, defeat, joy, and … you name it! The Bible says Jesus stands at the door and knocks - and we choose to give permission to the God of the universe to enter our lives or not. Love cannot and will not be forced.
S7/E17: How does PERMISSION impact how we show up in the world?
Monthly Topic: PERMISSION
In today’s episode, Jackie and Stacey identify and explore the originations of several social “schemas” we have adopted throughout our lives. These are societal or internal unwritten “rules” that we have been taught or learned along the way. We look at these so we can intentionally give ourselves PERMISSION to decide whether these rules still serve us, or PERMISSION to unlearn them!
S7/E16: How does LEGACY impact how we show up in community?
Monthly Topic: LEGACY
Our communities are our neighborhoods, social groups, sports engagements, schools, workplaces, and common interest groups. We ask ourselves, “how does THIS (action /thought / behavior/ etc) contribute to my legacy?” We use this question to help mold how we make decisions now. In today’s episode we call out dozens of our community members, and the legacies we see them building by showing up and making small contributions that consistently build lasting impact. Thank you. We see you, we love you!
S7/E15: How does LEGACY impact how we show up in close relationships?
Monthly Topic: LEGACY
Join us as we continue to discuss how we are currently building our individual legacies: what we will eventually leave behind. Today, we focus on this relationships that have impacted each of us deeply. Mentors are close relationships that have helped us identify and develop our legacy value systems, and how to maintain congruence.
S7/E14: How does LEGACY impact how we show up in faith?
Monthly Topic: LEGACY
While you may leave a LEGACY behind when you go, you are building your LEGACY now. What are we doing on the daily to build our legacy of faith? Be sure, our recollection of experiences is often times different from those who experience memories right along side us. But if we can look for Christ in people and reflect back to them that encouraging truth, then THAT is how we can build our faith legacy.
S7/E13: How does LEGACY impact how we show up in the world?
Monthly Topic: LEGACY
Welcome to a new month and a new topic! Legacy = what we leave behind. Compare traditional notions of legacy with more modern notions. For example, it’s not like the money we leave behind, but the daily intentional values we build upon. What do you want people to remember about how you showed up in the world?
S7/E12: How does MARGIN impact how we show up in community?
Monthly Topic: MARGIN
Thanks for joining us today as we wrap up our month long discussion on Margin. Follow along with us as we determine if we are overwhelming our bandwidth in our communities, or if we have the margin to participate in areas in which we are compelled. Alongside us, ask yourself what breaks your heart? Then do something about it. Join us?
S7/E11: How does MARGIN impact how we show up in close relationships?
Monthly Topic: MARGIN
Sooo many great questions to mull over in today’s episode! Join us and consider YOUR answers!
S7/E10: How does MARGIN impact how we show up in faith?
Monthly Topic: MARGIN
S7/E9: How does MARGIN impact how we show up in the world?
Monthly Topic: MARGIN
Margin is the space between doing all the things that you have to and want to do in life. In design, it’s called the “white space” where the eye can rest so it will be drawn to the filled space. Join us as we learn how to make space in our lives, and how it is not a luxury, but a necessity to leading a healthy and intentional life.
S7/E8: How does IDENTITY impact how we show up in our communities?
Monthly Topic: IDENTITY
During today’s episode - find out how we are our own worst enemies with the stories we tell. The fact is that we are all just faking it until we make it - and GOOD FOR US! In community is how we learn, and have the opportunities to practice playing out the identities we choose. In what ways are you practicing, learning and adapting who you are?
S7/E7: How does IDENTITY impact how we show up in close relationships?
Monthly Topic: IDENTITY
Today we scratch the surface of a discussion on maintaining our identities in close relationships. Of course, t’s natural to compromise, adapt, and grow as we learn how to interact in our close relationships. Ultimately, only you get to decide which values are foundational to you, and which areas you can compromise. It’s a delicate balance, and one we want to be intentional about paying attention to.
S7/E6: How does IDENTITY impact how we show up in faith?
Monthly Topic: IDENTITY
In today’s episode, Jackie asks us, “how do we use IDENTITY to describe ourselves?” And then, what happens when things change? Both of us are rooted in Christian faith, so we believe that strong foundation does not change. Our identity is first with Christ, as we:
Are created in God’s image;
The old is gone and the new is here;
God’s mercies are new each morning; and
He chose ALL of us for this!
So we remind ourselves of these truths by training our thoughts and our actions.
How does IDENTITY impact how we show up in the world?
Monthly topic: IDENTITY
Today we ask, “Who are you?” How do you see yourself? How do you define yourself? Giving voice to our identities, deciding who we want to be and intentionally stepping into the world fully YOU has great benefits. Join us today as we embrace our identity with confidence, authenticity and congruency.
S7/E4: How does REFLECTION impact how we show up in our communities?
Monthly Topic: REFLECTION
Communities are made up of individuals who are either practicing reflection … or not. We’ve discussed the many benefits we experience - and growth we are able to achieve -when we reflect. But how do we influence our communities to participate? How do we model reflection and empathy in community groups and in our neighborhoods?
S7/E3: How does REFLECTION impact how we show up in our close relationships?
Monthly Topic: REFLECTION
Jackie leads us through 5 major benefits of incorporating reflection into our close relationships. She also leads us through 3 pitfalls of reflection. Join us as we practice countering the pitfalls and practicing healthy reflection that leads to growth and better relationships.
S7/E2: How does REFLECTION impact how we show up in faith?
Monthly Topic: REFLECTION
In today’s episode, we go big with following God’s command to sit back, take stock, rest, and remember. Over and again God does amazing miracles, and over and again God reminds us to stop and remember. It is in this remembrance, this reflection on alllll the ways God has been faithful, that we are reminded that he will continue to provide and be faithful and love us. We continue to find that reflection breeds gratitude and celebration!
S7/E1: How does REFLECTION impact how we show up in the world?
Monthly Topic: REFLECTION
WELCOME to the seventh (7!!) season of the Jackie & Stacey Show. In today’s very first episode, we begin where we always do: with SELF. We discuss how important it is for us to stop. When we stop, we intentionally reflect on what we have done, what we have achieved, and where we have failed. Reflection is an important part of the beginning of a cycle or season of life. Listen in to find out more!
S6/E29: How does TENSION impact how we show up in our community?
Monthly Topic: TENSION
In today’s episode we:
1. Brainstorm types of tensions we encounter in communities (cultural, political, socio-economic, access to justice, etc);
2. Discuss the impacts of those different tensions (negative and positive); and
3. Highlight the ways in which we can manage our community tensions (acknowledging, navigating, highlighting the good, etc).
Join us as we hold the tensions we face in community with grace.
S6/E28: How does TENSION impact how we show up in close relationships?
Monthly Topic: TENSION
Listen in with us as we wade through e multitudes of ways to experience tension in close relationships. Jackie and Stacey describe several ways we experience tensions - and remind us all that tensions are not problems to be solved, but instead topics to be monitored and managed. Then we discuss ways to do just that: monitor and manage the inevitable continuing tensions in close relationships.
S6/E27: How does TENSION impact how we show up in faith?
Monthly Topic: TENSION
There are so many instances of tension within faith, and today we explore a few of them. Join us as we manage the tensions of what is versus what is to come; what we want to do versus what we actually do; and more dichotomies of living in faith.
S6/E26: How does TENSION impact how we show up in the world?
Monthly Topic: TENSION
After Jackie brought up Andy Stanley’s latest leadership wisdom we had to pursue this topic further. In today’s episode, we start with ourselves, and how we define the different types of tension: problems to be solved (temporary tension) and tension to be managed (ongoing tension). We hope you find this topic as fascinating as we do!
S6/E25: INTERVIEW w/ Jane and Lexi about LOYALTY
Monthly Topic: LOYALTY
Jane and Lexi drop some major wisdom! Tune in to the podcast to listen in on our interview of these two teenage philosophers! From faith to love, we’ve covered it all. What does loyalty mean to you?
S6/E24: How does LOYALTY impact how we show up in community?
Monthly Topic: LOYALTY
There are many benefits a community experiences because of the loyalty of its members: longevity, support, camaraderie, and more. We discuss some great communities we are in that we get these benefits from. And also, we discuss the challenges experienced in communities when there is blind loyalty, or challenges to loyalty. This continues to be a super engaging topic!
S6/E23
Monthly Topic: LOYALTY
This topic continues to fascinate us! In this episode, we wonder especially if you can be loyal to a person, but not loyal to that person’s opinions/ideas/values? It so interesting *especially* in this political climate, but really any time we disagree with someone we love.
S6/E22: How does LOYALTY impact how we show up in faith?
Monthly Topic: LOYALTY
In today’s episode we struggle with the concept of blind loyalty in faith, compared to the benefits of faith practices. We work through which aspects of faith and values to hold on to tightly, and which we can hold loosely. In zero instances must we live in fear that our faith is a house of cards, and cannot survive healthy questioning and critical thinking.
S6/E21: How does LOYALTY impact how we show up in the world?
Loyalty is such and interesting concept: sticking by someone/something no matter what. We discuss in today’s episode: is that healthy? Is it controlling to demand or expect loyalty? When do you give loyalty freely? A fascinating topic, and we hope this episode sparks reflection of your own brand of loyalty.
S6/E2: INTERVIEW on Failure with Eddie Guajardo
Eddie is a long time friend of Stacey’s, a local real estate estate agent, and life long leaner. In this interview, Eddie shares why he wasn’t offended in the slightest when we asked to interview him on the topic of failure. His perspective, deep thoughtfulness, and genuine desire to maintain a growth mindset will inspire you as it did us.
S6/E19: How does FAILURE impact how we show up in community?
However, as we have continued to ask throughout this month: is it really a failure to not succeed at something? Instead, we choose to frame the stories we tell about things that doesn’t work out: we choose to build resilience, to make sure we are congruent with our values, and we choose who we surround ourselves with in community.
S6/E18: How does FAILURE impact how we show up in close relationships?
S6/E17: How does FAILURE impact how we show up in our faith?
S6/E16: How does FAILURE impact how we show up in the world?
S6/E15: INTERVIEW with Steve McShane on Uncertainty
S6/E14: How does UNCERTAINTY impact how we show up in our communities?
S6/E13: How does UNCERTAINTY impact how we show up in close relationships?
S6/E12: How does UNCERTAINTY impact how we show up in faith?
S6/E11: How does UNCERTAINTY impact how we show up in the world?
S6/E10: INTERVIEW with Valerie Padilla & Kim Perez on Responsibility
S6/E9: How does RESPONSIBILITY impact how we show up in our communities?
S6/E8: How does RESPONSIBILITY impact how we show up in Close Relationships?
S6/E7: How does RESPONSIBILITY impact how we show up in faith?
S6/E6: How does RESPONSIBILITY impact how we show up in the world?
S6/E5: AGENCY INTERVIEW with Michael Lipe
S6/E4: How does AGENCY impact how we show up in our communities?
S6/E3: How does AGENCY impact how we show up in close relationships?
S6/E2: How does AGENCY impact how we show up in faith?
S6/E1: How does AGENCY impact how we show up in the world?