
It's Not You, It's Them
By Rich Whitenstall & Lauren Latham
Lauren (Millenial) is from the UK and currently lives and works in the USA. Her main client group is working with incarcerated people, however, she has an extensive background with young people.
Rich (GenX) is from and works in the UK. His client group is a private practice with adults and young people, however, prior to that, he worked as an LGBT project worker across Hampshire.
New topics weekly...


(GETTING STARTED) EP6 - Check Out
After working out that maybe some therapy might be worth looking into, we take you through some steps to get the most out of it, what to look out for and how to feel confident in what to expect. Therapy can be like "buying blind" and we break down the steps to take in searching for a therapist.
This week we look at what happens when therapy is ending, who gets to choose and what to expect.
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(GETTING STARTED) EP5 - One Size Doesn't Fit All
After working out that maybe some therapy might be worth looking into, we take you through some steps to get the most out of it, what to look out for and how to feel confident in what to expect. Therapy can be like "buying blind" and we break down the steps to take in searching for a therapist.
This week we look at what session options would suit you best, taking into account your lifestyle, support and what you what to accomplish.
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(GETTING STARTED) EP4 - Am I Ready?
After working out that maybe some therapy might be worth looking into, we take you through some steps to get the most out of it, what to look out for and how to feel confident in what to expect. Therapy can be like "buying blind" and we break down the steps to take in searching for a therapist.
This week we look at finding the right therapist and then working out how much support should be in place for therapy to be effective.
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(GETTING STARTED) EP3 - The Legal Stuff
After working out that maybe some therapy might be worth looking into, we take you through some steps to get the most out of it, what to look out for and how to feel confident in what to expect. Therapy can be like "buying blind" and we break down the steps to take in searching for a therapist.
This week we look at what you are getting into legal-wise with therapy. What are the limits, expectations and ways to feel safe while you work on yourself?
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(GETTING STARTED) EP2 - How Many Flavours?
After working out that maybe some therapy might be worth looking into, we take you through some steps to get the most out of it, what to look out for and how to feel confident in what to expect. Therapy can be like "buying blind" and we break down the steps to take in searching for a therapist.
This week we look at how there are many different types of counselling and what does each one mean?
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(GETTING STARTED) EP1 - What Am I Looking For?
After working out that maybe some therapy might be worth looking into, we take you through some steps to get the most out of it, what to look out for and how to feel confident in what to expect. Therapy can be like "buying blind" and we break down the steps to take in searching for a therapist.
This week we look at what it is you are looking for from a therapist.
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(CHECKING IN) EP6 - Desensitised
This week we look at being desensitised and how easy it is to get into that state and the effects it has on you.
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(CHECKING IN) EP5 - Triggers, Red Flags + Bad Habits
This week we start looking at the warning signs and why things are being flagged to be aware of, and how you can get conned into relationships and situations you do not want.
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(CHECKING IN) EP4 - Have I Hated You Before?
This week we start looking at patterns in people that you do not click with or repeatedly find yourself butting heads with and why that might be.
The Truth About Love by Pat Love - https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/218037.The_Truth_About_Love
Madea - Let Them Go - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IZ3a2gvLcvQ
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(CHECKING IN) EP3 - Attachment Styles - The Power Of No
This week we start looking at the power of being able to say No and why we sometimes feel we cannot say it when we need to.
The attachment style quiz - https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/external-quiz/
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(CHECKING IN) EP2 - Whats Love Got To Do With It?
This week we start looking at what we are sold about how to ‘be’ and ‘act’ in relationships and where the miscommunication can grow from.
To give the Love Languages test a go please see the link below:
https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
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(CHECKING IN) EP1 - Love From Corrupted Sources
This week we start looking at what society is selling about relationships, and why it often goes wrong.
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