
Non-Monogamy Help
By Lola Phoenix


Episode 183 - Disclosure and Privacy in Polyamory
Sometimes the best way to address fear of missing out is to invite partners to share new experiences, rather than tell them afterwards.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on Non-Monogamy Help.
This episode is sponsored by the BeMoreKinky app. BeMoreKinky is the leading app for helping couples in kinky or non-monogomous relationships to understand their kinks, communicate them with their partners, and organize play. Learn more at https://bemorekinky.com.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 182 - Permission in Polyamory
Consideration means giving the reins over and allowing emotions to decide whether a partner is allowed to go on a date, which isn't fair.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
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Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 181 - One P*nis Policies
Allowing a partner's anxieties to control behaviour is unfair not only to oneself, but also to the people being dated.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 180 - From Cheating to Polyamory
Unresolved betrayal needs to be addressed before moving forward into polyamory, or it will easily become a tit-for-tat situation.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 179 - Disability and Non-Monogamy
Partners and friends can help with the admin burden of checking accessibility. That's what mutual aid is all about.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 178 - Relationship Anarchy for Newbies
Two people could both be relationship anarchists and still not be compatible in terms of what they want or need out of a relationship.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 177 - What "Not Serious" Means
It doesn't matter if you don't call your relationship serious. If you act as though it is, your brain will feel like it is anyway.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 176 - Hierarchy vs Life Partner
Trying to figure out if polyamory is for you while dealing with new relationship energy can be a significant struggle.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 175 - Re-release Not Good Enough
Sometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 174 - Kitchen Table Parallel Polyamory
Is it possible to be kitchen table polyam and also have parallel relationships? Absolutely. There is no rule.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 173 - Polyamory Chicken
Your brain is telling you a lie: slowing down their relationship won't make your relationship safer.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 172 - Forcing Kitchen Table
Metas don't owe you friendship and how being too involved in their drama makes it worse.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 171 - Deconstructing Monogamy
Don't just follow the cultural script and behave like you're basically a monogamous couple with disposable arm candy.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 170 - Dating Serial Monogamists
All relationships end anyway. Some just come with a clearer expiration date than others.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 169 - Marriage and Polyamory
There is one throne and one person who can sit in that throne, and right now that's you—but you can be replaced.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 168 - Kitchen Table Drama
The hinge is not hinging, and then the two metas have to negotiate with each other like the hinge is a hostage.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 167 - Surprise Polyamory
You don't get told who you're in a relationship with. That's something you decide yourself.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 166 - Exclusivity in Polyamory
Just because you're secondary doesn't mean you should accept being treated like you don't matter.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 165 - Re-Release Primal Panic
This week I'm re-sharing Episode 104 on Primal Panic because it's one of the most popular episodes and you might have missed it!
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 164 - Too Much Labour
Stop carrying the entire mental load of your relationship while your partner coasts on your effort.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 163 - People Pleasing in Polyamory
Are you people pleasing to the point where you think you've over corrected but really, you're under-correcting?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 162 - Setting Real Boundaries in Polyamory
You should never have to ask, 'What if someone crosses my boundary?' Because the boundary, in and of itself, by definition, should include what you will do if it is crossed.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
This episode also features an ad for a Polyamory Retreat in Spain in September hosted by Dedeker Winston and Orit Krug. For more information about the retreat visit multiamory.com/retreat
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 161 - Bedtime Relationship Rumination
Why your brain processes relationship conflicts at night and how to break the cycle without exhausting your partner.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
This episode also features an ad for a Polyamory Retreat in Spain in September hosted by Dedeker Winston and Orit Krug. For more information about the retreat visit multiamory.com/retreat
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 160 - What A Boundary Is
How many times should you let someone violate your boundaries and can you rebuild trust after?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 159 - No Contact Metamour
When you’re no contact with a nesting metamour, can you make a relationship with your shared partner work?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 158 - Hierarchies and Polyamory
When your primary partner only wants to have threesomes other partners and not you, it may not be a good sign.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 157 - Solo Not Celibate
Trying polyamory with a solo polyam person could be potentially difficult for a monogamous person.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 156 - Polyamory Obsessed
How do you stop becoming just a little bit obsessed with reading about polyamory?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 155 - Re-Release Hierarchies and Ethics
Prioritising a long term marriage is unethical to many people, but what do you if that’s genuinely what you want to do?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 154 - Sharing Home With A Metamour
Feeling like you have to make yourself scarce in your own home can get old very quickly.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 153 - Childhood Trauma and Polyamory
How long should a partner wait for you to work through childhood trauma until you are “ready” for polyamory?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 152 - Reddit Ashes
Responding to the r/relationships question: My boyfriend wouldn't go with me to spread my father's ashes
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 151 - Cold Metamour
If your metamour is a little cold to you, when do you decide to tell your partner? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 150 - Q&A
Questions for this week's Q&A episode include: - Any tips for long distance polyamory?
- How do you deal with guilt over having a stronger romantic connection with one partner?
- Could space away from a partner calm down polyamory related anxiety attacks?
- How to deal with conflict of NRE when your partner takes so long to process feelings?
- Any tips for people opening up after eight y ears together? How to deprogram systemic monogamy?
- Why is there such a negative sentiment/stigma towards polyamory? Why all of the disapproval?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Looking for a way to better connect with your emotions? Dedeker Winston of the Multiamory podcast and dance/movement therapist Orit Krug are leading a somatic therapy retreat for polyamorous folks in Crete from March 31st to April 3rd, 2025. Sign up today!
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 149 - Mono/Poly Relationships
Everyone always wonders if it is possible to be monogamous to polyamorous person successfully.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Looking for a way to better connect with your emotions? Dedeker Winston of the Multiamory podcast and dance/movement therapist Orit Krug are leading a somatic therapy retreat for polyamorous folks in Crete from March 31st to April 3rd, 2025. Sign up today!
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 148 - Children from Flings
When a fling results in a different parent of your child, it might be difficult to know whether or not to involve the biological parent.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 147 - Dating Monogamous People
Your partner doesn’t seem to mind dating monogamous people but you feel it’s not right. Can you actually change it?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 146 - Polyamory to Avoid Breaking Up
Is it a good idea to try polyamory just to avoid breaking up with your partner and are you insecure and traumatised if you're struggling to make it work?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
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Episode 145 - Re-release Insecurity and Comparisons
Episode 85 was titled Insecurity and Comparisons and was about being worried about having feelings about your partner interacting with pictures of others.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
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Episode 144 - Polyamory FOMO
What happens when you start off polyamory liking it but start feeling resentful towards your partner when they go on dates?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
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Episode 143 - Experienced But Anxious
What happens when you feel incredibly anxious about any new partner your partner has even though you are very experienced in polyamory?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
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Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
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Episode 142 - Finding New Partners
You want your partner to be more supportive in helping you find more partners or being a better wingman because you’re struggling to find new partners in an open marriage.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
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Episode 141 - Making Amends
Everybody messes up in relationships but making amends isn’t always a one sided action. You have to work together to rebuild trust.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
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Episode 140 - Q&A
Questions for this week's Q&A episode include:
- How do I address friends who don't ask about or invite your partner to things? Friends who say they are supportive but only talk about that partner if you bring them up.
- How do I find out what I actually feel when my spouse is out with others?
- What do you do if you're feeling burnt out by emotional conversations?
- My partner is always recommending stuff to me that was recommended to him by a metamour.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Check out Chill Polyamory's new podcast "I Could Never..." on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts.
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Episode 139 - Boundaries vs. Rules
If you frequently don’t follow your boundaries with action, your brain could respond with anxiety because of the self-sabotage.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
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Episode 138 - Conflicting Routines
Trying to work out intentional time together when life circumstances and sleep schedules get in the way without taking it personally can be a challenge.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
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Episode 137 - Meta's Fault
Your partner is making decisions about your relationship based off of your metamour’s feelings and resentment is building. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
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Episode 136 - Long Distance Sharing
If you don’t want any other partners sharing your bed, is this jealousy or just a reasonable boundary?
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Episode 135 - Long Distance Avoidance
You’ve done all the studying but still can’t shake the negative feelings when your partner dates others and you think you may be monogamous by nature.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
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Episode 134 - Polyamory and Trauma
Seeing yourself as “traumatised” may actually be causing yourself more stress and difficulty than if you allowed yourself the permission to feel.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
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