The All Arminda Show

Some of you may already be familiar with Chris Dorris. Not long ago I offered my readers access to his powerful audio program on commitment. If you missed that opportunity, it's not too late. Just send me an email and I'll be happy to send you the link. It's definitely worth the listen.

For those of you not familiar with him, Chris is essentially the psychological equivalent to a physical trainer and has been immersed in the world of pushing people past their perceived limits since 1994 in the capacity of advisor, consultant and Mental Toughness Trainer and Personal Transformation Coach to elite athletes, executives, entrepreneurs and individuals worldwide. He conducts workshops and seminars on Mental Conditioning, Leadership, and Peak Performance.

"Your life unfolds according to the way that you think." -- Buddha

What if you had a class that teaches you how to think and to strengthen the quality of your thinking skills? To practice using your mind to positively improve your world?

Was Freud wrong with his stimulus/response theory?!

The good news is you can IMMEDIATELY change your thoughts with CHOICE, and with practice we can alter our perceptions of reality. Suffering is merely the result of judging your sadness.

Your choice is to either experience the world problematically or opportunistically.

Options/interpretations of reality allow you to have, do and be what you want.

1. Catch Your Negative Thoughts
2. Own Your Thoughts
3. Replace Your Interpretations With an Upgrade

Becoming aware of the invisible (inside) stuff is unconscious learning!

"If something is troubling you, it's not the thing itself, but your estimate of it, which you can revoke at any time." -- Marcus Aurelius

Chris makes it very clear: He is not selling happy thoughts; he's selling options -- you have a choice.

You cannot create excellence and mastery in a sustainable way if you choose a low grade interpretation of reality. -- Chris Dorris

"Create the state; don't wait." -- Chris Dorris

You always have access to gratitude. The only thing that goes away is your ability to remember you always have access!

Maintain a gratitude journal.

We chat about our friend Andrew McKee and his amazing book titled Change Your Game, Change Your Life.

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Loving you,
arminda

Is it unusual that I’m bringing in a man to talk about women? Not this man, methinks :)

What can you look forward to learning?

The woman who knows her power and isn’t afraid of being and showing herself to the world — the world changes because of her

That value, sovereignty, inheritance resides within each of us — and only our stories get in the way

Unless and until I love and value myself, will I be the sovereign of my life and when I step into that value I will bless everyone around me because I don’t need them to be love because I already am love

Loving ourselves is such a deeply powerful experience and you’re the only one who can do it

How to Increase Your Power

1. Notice what you do and who you be
2. Choose different
3. Take actionable steps to live the life you imagine
4. Choose you

Future Vision Exercise

1. List all the things you're grateful for (read daily)
2. Write personal “I am” statement (read daily)
3. Live it

Choosing YOU

1. This is who I say I am, now I only have to choose it
2. Know your value
3. Create your sovereignty
4. Be around men who appreciate everything you bring
5. Be who you need to be and you’ll attract the right sort of men

Gary references both Steve Hardison & Steve Chandler, remarkable men who have impacted countless lives with their love and service.

Gary's Bio

Besides women's surf retreats,  we create bespoke events for team building, leadership work, and executive groups: 3 day events in Malibu & 5 day events in Hawaii.

Gary works with highly-driven people to do that thing they want with all their heart, that thing they might not know how to describe yet. That thing that scares the hell out of them.

He challenges how his clients see themselves, think about themselves and believe in themselves.  Gary firmly believes and lives the principle: when you change the way you think about yourself and you change the way you behave, your life WILL transform. He will never, ever let you forget what you tell him is important to you. When you are ready, he'll be your Life's Purpose Operations Manager, building your dreams together.

Marylou and I met on Twitter and I'm so incredibly delighted I reached out to her and even more delighted that she agreed to speak with me! May your experience of her work be similar to my “heart response” when I saw her art.

During this episode, Marylou and I talk about the significant work she’s doing impacting women’s lives through the visual medium of her art and why she started the Women and the Hourglass series of paintings that resonate so powerfully with women.

Each message, each woman, is pointing her finger at me and saying, 'Wake up, Marylou! Make a different choice! Make a different decision!'

Addiction has been part of Marylou’s family story and her personal journey and learning about addiction led us into a deeper discussion around what it means to love ourselves and what practices we can implement to remove the foreign concept of love into a practical application and a regular practice for ourselves.

Marylou is most interested in living a life of truth telling, allowing others to tell their stories, their heartaches, to talk about getting better, learning more, waking up and being in conversation about that from an authentic point of view.

1. Be real.
2. Be honest.
3. Tell the truth.
4. Love ourselves so we can love others.

Be sure and look at Marylou's gorgeous artwork on her website.

Melissa Ford is remarkable. No, seriously. She's one of the most amazing women I know, and I know a lot of amazing women. It was such an honor to talk with her about service and to gain clarity around this widely misunderstood behavior and quality.

On the (rather early) morning of our scheduled conversation, the first thing Melissa said to me was

I would only get up this early for Arminda or Santa Claus.

And that is a high praise I'm taking to the bank!

My recommendation is that you listen more than once and really let sink in these refined nuances of what service really means and allow yourself time to identify areas in your world (professional and personal) where you can make some adjustments.

• Widely misunderstood definition of service = means giving and giving and giving with expectation of nothing in return
• Lots of expectations built into that model & it drains your energy, makes you small and your business doesn't grow
• This definition doesn't work, especially when I need clients and money
• Operating under this definition creates resentment, manipulation and strategies to get something back
• True Definition of Service = Giving/helping/loving fearlessly without attachment to an outcome
• Money is part of service.
• Can't serve unless people are willing to pay for your product or service
• Nobody values anything if it's free
• Must include yourself in the equation of service
• Service and love mean letting go of your ego = that's true power
• Love for a living because love does pay the mortgage
• Love expresses itself in many ways; there is not just one version of love

Melissa Ford, Business Coach, JD, PCI Certified Coach

As a coach, transformational speaker, entrepreneur and lawyer, Melissa brings deep insights, laser focus and diverse, rich experiences to her clients. For over 20 years she has been empowering people (entrepreneurs, small business owners, executives, parents, individuals) to create positive, permanent change in their lives, enabling her clients to do more and to have more.

You can find Melissa on her website and on Facebook.

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

A Natural History of the Senses by Diane Ackerman

Sweat Your Prayers by Gabrielle Roth

Maps to Ecstasy by Gabrielle Roth

The Second Circle: How to Use Positive Energy for Success in Every Situation by Patsy Rodenburg

Whenever one person resolves one issue, all of humanity moves forward.

-- Ron Hulnick, PhD

Monica Day is a writer, artist, creator, producer, performer, coach, entrepreneur and instigator, with a deep commitment to an ever-unfolding personal journey. She brings a unique combination of training in creativity, sensuality, diversity, and business to her work.

She is the founder of The Sensual Life, the producer and creator of The Power of One program, is an Integrative Coach to individuals, executives, and groups, and runs Ducky Life Tea with her two daughters. She has developed a unique approach to coaching that focuses on integrating the scattered self into the most powerful, purest, and fully-expressed self. She coaches a diverse range of individuals from business leaders to social change activists and everything in between.

Her innovative individual and group programs cover topics from sensuality to creativity to business to larger social issues of race and oppression (often in the same session). By forging powerful links between the private self to the public self, clients eventually realize an unprecedented feeling of wholeness that is life-changing. Her coaching is based on the premise that the more connected we are to every part of ourselves, the more connected we can be with one another, and the bigger impact we can have during our time here on the planet.

I love Kamin Samuel. Really. She's remarkable. This was my second opportunity to interview her about money and money fears and our relationship with money. I encourage you to listen to our first conversation, recorded with the astonishing Elatia Abate. (I'm not at all biased when it comes to my friends, as you can tell.)

During this discussion, Kamin and I spend a lot of time discussing the power of language and the words we speak and what that has to do with money.

We also get to talk about wealth and abundance and what those two words' meanings include and the energy of money.

Kamin's Recommended System for Increasing Wealth:

1. Read “The Wealth Exercise” from The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy.
2. Each morning do “The Wealth Exercise” for at least 30 seconds, ideally a few minutes. Kamin only uses the word wealth. Ask yourself, “what would it feel like to have…”
3. Write down any inspirations or ideas that come forward, like to call or email someone, get your resume together, make an appointment of some kind
4. Take action. The goal is to take action that day and watch what magic can happen.
5. HAVE FUN and step into the flow of experiencing more wealth and success in your life. Enjoy!

I'm also excited to tell you Kamin and I have a couple of surprises up our sleeves coming to you soon. If you have additional questions for Kamin, please let me know!

Abundance is not something we acquire; it is something we tune into.

-- Wayne Dyer

Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy

Loving you,
arminda

Christina Berkley embodies power in the most loving context  and it was an absolute honor interviewing her.

I know you'll love this candid discussion around power and how we define it, relate to it, use it and shy away from it.

If you're curious at all about this sometimes nebulous force, enjoy all that Christina has to say and I feel certain you'll come away with a different perspective and some tools you can use right now to shift your own sense of power within.

If you're interested in connecting with Christina, she's a coach and speaker living in New York City. Her clients are extraordinary beings and leaders in their lives. Whether she’s working with moms, politicians, celebrities, musicians, activists, ​entrepreneurs, ​coaches etc., she is madly interested in each person’s unique expression and capacity to change themselves and the world.

The search and evolution of Power has been central to her life. Although she’s trained with some of the best coaches and teachers alive today, her greatest learnings have come from living on the edges, both on purpose and not. Her mission is to pass on that wisdom and get people connected to their own infinite reserves of power, tremendous capacity for love, ​and ​to help them wildly succeed ​in their businesses, ​and prosper along the way.

Loving you,
arminda

Change Your Game, Change Your Life  is his brand new book. And if you listen to this episode, you will quickly learn you don't need to know anything about the game of golf to appreciate the wisdom in Andrew's concept.

Andrew and I talk about so much more than golf.

Our conversation is about connecting.

Here's Andrew's concept broken down in three simple steps, but listen to get all the juicy understanding:

1. Identify your "game"
2. Identify your barriers
3. Bring love & connect

I've heard Andrew sing. Don't miss this opportunity. Here's a recording of him performing Stars from Les Miserables. The song he performed when I first met him was Anthem from the musical, Chess. As soon as I get access to a recording I'll share it here.

GI Joe reference? Yes, that, too.

And nothing beats Buddy the Elf's wisdom on that one, folks:

The best way to spread Christmas Cheer, is singing loud for all to hear.

If you haven't seen my video about that ladder -- now's a great time to have a look!

Loving you,
arminda

Jonathan Keyser wrote the book Disruptive and the quote I shared is this:

When you pour your energies and resources and relationship into helping all the people you touch in as many ways as you can and then getting up the next day and doing it all over again, that is service. And that is the mindset that leads those who follow to extraordinary success and wealth beyond their wildest dreams.

What are your thoughts about service? Agree or disagree with Jonathan?

Loving you,
arminda

Join Arminda for story-time as she reads one of her favorite books to listeners called Ish by author, Peter H. Reynolds.

. . . letting go of what's "supposed" to be and showing up in our own ish way can be liberating and exciting. What would that look like for you?

Loving you,
arminda

I reference The Not So Serious Life with Jason Goldberg and Steve Chandler. If you do nothing else for yourself today, watch their show.

Loving you,
arminda

During this episode, Arminda shares a passage from Brenda Ueland's notable book, If You Want to Write, in which Brenda Ueland and Leo Tolstoy have a few things to say about how drinking, smoking, coffee and drugs dull creativity!

Listen to hear what Leo Tolstoy had to say about his own use of alcohol and cigarettes in his writing process and how that changed over time for him in his own evolution as an author.

What does any of this have to do with you and YOUR creativity? Maybe a lot.

loving you,
arminda